Love Is Pointless Listening

 

Love is not a point of view. Love is pointless.

When I react to another person's point of view, my reaction creates an equally narrow point. Both points sustain each other through polarization, fed by anger and fear of losing. Equally valid as  reactions to one other, these viewpoints are equally meaningless in relation to the Great Space of Awareness, where all possible points of view arise and dissolve.

Is it possible to remain spacious, listening without contracting the other, without forming another point of view? This is precisely what Jesus meant when he said, "Love your adversary... resist not the negative one." 

Remaining spacious while gazing into the face of hostility requires great courage. This space is redemptive: it saves me from confining myself to the hell of a narrow viewpoint. At the same time, my pointless listening invites the "enemy" to relax into that same space.

Nothing is gained by arguing with an angry person. Real transformation flowers, not by arguing with my neighbor, but enfolding her in the unified field of pure listening.

Listening without a point is a heavenly place to hang out, for it redeems us from the little hell of having to be "right." In that pointless place, I can "love my neighbor as my self," because we are both breaths and waves of the same spaciousness.

When we see that love is listening to one another without making a point, we can be one, yet not the same.

- Fred LaMotte